Let’s be honest, no one likes pushy people who just don’t know when to give up. Dealing with people like that is difficult and soon we get overwhelmed with their behavior.
It’s okay to take the first step to show someone that you’re interested in it. However, there is a fine line between doing this and being very strong when you are trying to win someone over.
There must be limits to everything, even flirting. If you’re being too strong with someone you just met, you’re just going to scare him.
When you have a thing for someone, even if you are sure that person is your soul mate, you need to calm down and stay calm. Don’t show them your feelings right away and don’t rush anything.
You don’t want to look too desperate, do you? So stop obsessing about the person you like, be patient and let time do your job.
If you want to know if it is coming too strong and too fast, the ‘follow-up text’ is full of warning signs that you should never ignore.
1. STEADY ADVANTAGE
Nobody likes to show off, but we all do that sometimes. It’s not bad to brag about things once in a while, but we have to have boundaries and boundaries that we shouldn’t cross.
If you constantly brag about yourself, no one will believe you. You have to let other people brag about you.
How are you going to do that?
Well, be kind and treat people fairly, try to be the best at what you do, and do good deeds for others, without expecting anything in return.
Brag too much and constantly talk about yourself, it’s not a way to impress your flirting. That’s just going to make them think you’re desperate.
You don’t need to draw attention to your qualities or something you’ve done. The right person will know how to appreciate you. Be yourself and let them know you.
Most of us would agree that people who like to brag are usually not as talented as they want us to think.
If you brag about how good you are or how much better you are than other people, your crush will only see you as a person full of insecurity.
Everyone has some insecurity, but how we manage them is what counts. Covering your insecurities by bragging about some of your qualities will never be good for your relationship.
You have to show your true self to the other person, because you won’t be able to pretend forever and, of course, the other person deserves to see the real you.
Being very strong and bragging (especially when you just met someone) will cause the other person to form a negative opinion about you. They will see you as a deeply insecure and arrogant person.
2. TOO MANY TEXT MESSAGES
It’s great that you took the first step and asked for their phone number because it shows that you’re confident. Now you have to be careful when sending text messages to them.
You should never be the one who always calls or sends text messages first all the time. It’s normal that you want to be in touch with your passion 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and that you want to know where she is all the time.
However, you have to stay calm. If you’re too strong by texting or calling them too much, you’ll annoy them or they’ll think you’re an idiot.
Even if you’ve met someone you like on a dating site and text messages are your only way of communicating at the moment, you shouldn’t send text messages all the time.
They may think that your life is boring and that you are sitting in front of the computer all day.
If you don’t have a response, don’t keep sending text messages until they respond. They may not have time to respond instantly, or they may not like you and don’t want to keep texting with you.
Besides, don’t write novels for them. I understand that you want to know your passion, but you should leave something to talk about on a date.
You should keep in mind that some people don’t like texting as much as you do, and some people are shy and don’t want to talk too much when you meet them.
If you are too strong with lots of texts and calls, you will just push them away.
3. TALK TOO EARLY
If you just started a new relationship, you need to spend some time with that person and get to know them before you start talking about the future.
If you’re on your first date and say you’d like to define the relationship, your date will think you’re weird.
You have to wait for the right time to talk to your partner about how to define your relationship. The beginning of a relationship is never the right time.
The other person will always show it in some way when they’re ready for the conversation. You just have to wait and listen carefully.
If you just start dating, you should show your partner how relaxed you are. Even if they bring up the subject of the future, you have to be cool.
Reveal your plans and goals to them, but don’t talk about the future of your relationship.
Also, before having a serious conversation with your new partner, you should make sure you want to spend the rest of your life together.
No matter how much you like the other person or even fall in love with them at first glance, you need to know them well before you start making plans for the future with them.
If you hurry, it won’t go as you expected. Trust me, that never happens.
4. AGGRESSIVE FLIRTING
Flirting is how you show someone interested in her romantically. It’s the best way to seduce a person for whom you have a fall, but it has to be done the right way.
Some people are flirtatious cream and can seduce the person they like on any day. On the other hand, some people are desperate to flirt.
If you are trying too hard and get no reaction from the other side, your flirtation can become aggressive. That hindrance to starting a new relationship.
You may think you should try even harder to get the attention of the person you care about. This is wrong. You’re just going to scare this person.
You don’t need to fill them with compliments or leave scary comments on your Instagram photos. You shouldn’t exaggerate anything.
Seducing someone with one touch is the most efficient way to flirt with someone.
It’s smooth and subtle. Unfortunately, some men misinterpret and become very sensitive on the first date, something most women hate.
Maybe you’ve seen it in a movie or tried to copy the flirting technique from your favorite star, but these things DON’T work in real life.
5. EXCESSIVE PRAISE
Compliments are also a good way to flirt. However, you should pay attention to a few things when praising your passion. If you don’t do it the right way, they won’t believe you meant it.
If you’re too strong with compliments, it also means you’re not being honest. You have to give only sincere compliments to your crush.
Sounds too good to be true. If you’re praising a person you like for all the time you spend with her, it will annoy her or make her think you have second thoughts.
You should avoid being too strong with compliments, especially when meeting someone for the first time.
You don’t know anything about this person, so you can only compliment their physical appearance.
Also, you never know how that other person will react to receiving so many compliments. You can scare them because they’ll probably think you’re some kind of weirdo.
I know that if you fall in love with someone, at first sight, you may be fascinated by their beauty. You think they should know how beautiful they are and start praising them.
If you fill your passion with compliments early in the relationship, they will believe that you are not being sincere and that it does not mean what you are saying.
Even if you have developed some strong and deep feelings for them and know that your intentions are honest, they may have the feeling that you are just trying to manipulate them.
6. DEMAND TO LEAVE EVERY DAY
You just met someone and clicked instantly with them. Normally, you enjoy spending time with them, but you should not ask them to spend all the moments of their free time with you.
Remember, we all have different lives and different obligations. You have to respect everyone’s agenda.
If your flirting is busy and can’t go out with you when you invite her, you need to understand. Don’t be angry right away.
Even if they don’t have a busy work schedule, if they don’t want to go out with you, you have to accept without getting angry.
Maybe they need some time alone or are afraid that everything is moving too fast and they need some space.
To be honest, we all need some space in a relationship. You have to be alone sometimes to think about your feelings and your relationship.
You have to relax a little. Demanding that your flirt at all times only makes you look sticky.
Being attached to someone will always lead you to have your heart broken.
7. ALWAYS BE AVAILABLE TO THEM
It’s nice to always be there for your crush when he needs you. They should know that they can trust you in every situation. However, this does not mean that you should be available to them at all times.
You have to let them know that you have your own life and your obligations. You should not make them the center of your life, or worse yet, you should not immediately show them how much they mean to you.
You have your friends and family and should spend some time with them as well.
If you cancel your plans with them every time your flirting calls you out, you will not only lose them, but you will also show your flirt that it’s easy to disappoint the people who love you the most.
Being always available to them is not like showing them that you like spending time with them, it will just make you look and feel desperate.
You always answer their messages instantly and answer calls as soon as the phone rings. It’s like you’ve been waiting all day for a call or text message.
If you were busy and didn’t hear your phone ringing, you immediately apologize for not answering immediately.
You forget your schedule. Not even your work is more important. You let the other person control everything. You let them plan every meeting and agree with everything they suggest.
Not always available for your crush. You need to show them that you are successful and that you need to stick to your schedule.
8. APPEARING IN THEIR HOUSE WITHOUT WARNING
The worst thing you can do if your crush doesn’t answer your messages shows up at his house. It’s off-limits, regardless of the case.
First of all, it’s rude. They may be having a party or some family reunion and you can ruin everything. Their family will see you as someone who has no manners and you may never be welcome in their home again.
Showing up unannounced at your crush’s house is never going well, trust me. It’s even worse if they didn’t give you the address, but you found out somehow.
Your passion will think you’re spying and it might scare you. They may even think that you are some kind of maniac and ask that you never call or talk to them in your life.
9. CONTACT YOUR FAMILY OR BEST FRIENDS WITHOUT THEIR APPROVAL
You should not talk to your family or friends until they introduce you. That means you’re just trying to speed things up in your relationship.
You have to be patient and wait. When your passion is ready, she will introduce you to your parents. Still, you shouldn’t talk to them without your partner’s approval.
One thing they will never forgive you for at the beginning of their relationship is if you call their parents or friends every time you fight.
It’s normal to have some disagreements, after all, you’re still getting to know each other. The important thing is to learn how to deal with them healthily.
You have to learn to solve your problems in particular and not drag others into your conflicts.
The only time you can call your family member or best friend without approval is if you need their help to choose the right gift for your crush’s birthday or some other occasion.
10. CONSTANTLY CHECKING YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA PROFILES
It’s good that you check your Facebook or Instagram profiles and find out some new things about them. However, you should not check them all day long.
You can check some basic information about them, but you don’t need to check what your favorite movies, foods, drinks or songs are. You can wait until the next meeting and ask personally about your interests.
You don’t need to spy on them and check everyone who liked your photos or whose photos they liked. Also, you should never like all the photos right away, especially those from before you even met.
Even if you see something you don’t like, if someone left an inappropriate comment or something, you shouldn’t react immediately.
You shouldn’t react. Remember, you’re still getting to know each other – you’re not even dating yet. Even if you were, they don’t owe you any explanation about things that happened before you even met.
So be smart and don’t ask directly. When the time comes, include it in a conversation topic, and don’t let them know it bothers you so much.
Possessiveness and jealousy can drive away your passion. Believe me, if your passion finds out you’re spying on them, they’ll run away in no time.
11. CONTINUE TO PURSUE THE RELATIONSHIP, EVEN IF THEY HAVE REJECTED YOU MANY TIMES
Rejection will never be good, no matter why. It’s especially hard if you think you’ve finally found your soul mate and they’ve rejected you.
However, you have to learn when to stop trying and pursue the relationship. If a person has rejected you several times, then you have to accept the fact that they don’t like you and you can’t do anything about it.
The more you chase, the more they will be bored with your persistence. You have to know that some people are not meant to be in your life. You have to know when is the right time to stop trying.
Sometimes you’re afraid of losing the person you love so much. You tried to seduce them and you think it’s the only way to win them over.
The truth is that getting too strong and too fast is always a hindrance.
As you can see, there are many obvious red flags that you should never ignore when trying to seduce someone.
If you’re too strong while flirting with someone, it will certainly backfire and ward off your passion.
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